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Dealing with Discouragement

by Ian Acheson

Jenny* was running late. She grabbed the first seat inside the door, and acknowledged the teacher standing on the opposite side of the room. He welcomed her, unfazed by being interrupted.

We were sharing our homework. A 250-word piece on “Daring to Kick the Universe”.

We soon got around to Jenny. She prefaced her work by sharing that she’d experienced her first troll on her blog that afternoon. We invited her to tell us more about how she felt.

Shock, anger, and frustration reflected in Jenny’s response. I could relate having only the day before read a very unflattering review of Angelguard. It didn’t matter that I had a bunch of other really flattering ones; this one review had bugged me for a day or so.Angelguard

Just like Jenny, I’m new to this type of negativity. She confessed what I too had contemplated: responding with a curt reply. Neither of us did.

It riled us and we didn’t know what to do with the negative emotion it produced.

“You’re going to have develop a thick skin,”

“Don’t worry about it, its’ blah blah, blah,”

“Don’t these people have something more interesting in their lives than to openly criticise someone’s work.”

Encouragers expressed all of these statements and more. Our teacher reiterated the over-sensitive nature creative types typically have: they put their work out into the world without any protection hoping and praying it will be (and only) well received. But the well-wishers only served to diminish the flames, not extinguish them.

A few days later I read a few more such reviews and understood why many creative types refuse to read reviews. Reading reviews of your own work isn’t for everyone and that’s okay.

My mind, as it can do, spiralled into a pit where I became fearful of what those closest to me would think having recently given them a copy of the book.

I recalled the advice I gave Jenny: don’t let the negative emotions linger for long. Discouragement can quickly turn into a little seed of bitterness.

As I put my head on my pillow later that night I turned to the Lord. I sensed the question, “Is this that important?”

“No,” I responded.

“Then let it go. The only one holding onto it is you.”

So I let it go.

And prayed for all those who’d reviewed Angelguard, especially those whose reviews were negative. Jesus in the Sermon on the Mount in Matthew chapters 5-7, says we should “love our enemies and pray for those who persecute you.”(5:44). I’ve always found this douses the fire of discouragement in my heart.

The enemy is intentional in his strategies to unsettle us. Discouragement is one of his key weapons.

What strategies have worked effectively for you when you’re feeling discouraged?

(*Jenny is a pseudonym for one of my creative writing classmates.)

Ian Acheson
Ian Acheson is an author and strategy consultant based in Sydney, Australia. Ian’s first novel, Angelguard, is now available in the USA, Canada and UK. Visit Ian at his website and on his author Facebook page.

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9 Responses to Dealing with Discouragement

  1. Ron Estrada says:

    I’ve had to point out to several writers that Moby Dick has 43 one-star ratings on Amazon. This is the ugly side of the internet. Everyone has a voice. Even those who only choose to bring others down. Some bad reviews make good points and we should learn from them. Others are just the reader who feels a need to play Simon Cowell to the literary world. Take ‘am as they come, brother, and move on.

  2. Melissa Tagg says:

    “The only one holding onto it is you.”

    Such words of wisdom, Ian! I so appreciated this post!

  3. Ian says:

    Hi Ron & Melissa

    Appreciate the encouragement.

    Blessings to you both.

    Ian

  4. Love the scripture you shared! Great post. I will def be keeping this for a good reminder. Thank you.

  5. Ian says:

    Thanks Martha.

    It’s so important we all keep encouraging each other.

    Best,

    Ian

  6. Beth K. Vogt says:

    A timely post, as my second novel releases next week. I know all the right responses, but when hit with a negative review, I still react in a very normal (and negative) way. Thanks for such an honest post. I’ve never thought of praying for the reviewers of my books, but I’m going to know.

  7. Ian says:

    Hi Beth

    Wishing you all the very best with your launch this week. Thanks for popping by to comment.

    Bless,

    Ian

  8. Telena Tanara Contreras says:

    This is such an encouraging post, Ian. Thanks for sharing.

  9. Ian says:

    Oh thank you Telena for your comment. I so appreciate it.

    Ian