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Where Does Your Validation Come From?

By Tammie Fickas

Early Tuesday morning my phone vibrated with an incoming text from a friend congratulating me on being a finalist in a flash fiction contest. A whoop of surprise burst out before I could stop it. I quickly found the email that congratulated me on being chosen and relished the excitement.

Later in the day, while I was still savoring the news, I found myself thinking that finally I had some validation as a writer. Just as quickly came thoughts of why what other people thought of my writing was so important to me. I started to question where the treasures of my heart were stored.

Winning contests and having people like your writing is not a bad thing. God has given us this talent, and I don’t think He minds that other people recognize us for a job well done. My question for myself was more along the lines of why this little success was so thrilling to me. Did I want to win so that God would be glorified? Or did I want to win to show people how good I am?

Validation is a funny thing. It’s not unnatural for us to want to be good at what we do. If we write and people never read our stories, blogs, books, and articles, then we can’t accomplish what God has given us to do. So, we need to make sure we’re learning and growing our skills, as well as sharing our work. It becomes a problem when we live for those ego strokes instead of knowing we’re doing what God has called us to do.

I’ve found some ways to counteract the headiness of our success.

  1. Remember to thank God as part of your celebration. This is a no-brainer, but it’s easy to get caught up in the happiness and forget that we didn’t do this alone. God is still the author of our success and our failures. He deserves the credit since without Him our words don’t have the weight they do.
  1. Be humble. The hard times and failures come just as easily as the successes. Keep your wits about you and know that the next time it could be you on the sidelines. Taking your wins gently can help you weather your failure better. This one win, whether a big one or a small one like mine, doesn’t mean you’ve arrived. It just means you’ve done this task very well.
  1. Pray. Our strength, hope, and talent come from the Lord. He should be our guide on this journey. When we continue to reach out to Him, we are better equipped to handle what comes next, be it an award or a rejection.

Validation is a heady thing. It can pull us off track if we’re seeking it from the wrong things and people. As long as God is proud of what we’ve written and declared it good, we shouldn’t need anyone else to do that for us. We are enough and our writing is enough if it comes from a place of humbleness before the Lord.

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Tammie Fickas loves a good story. A former columnist for the Broken but Priceless magazine, she also has an essay in the anthology, God’s Provision in Tough Times. Tammie loves Jesus, her daddy, her sassy cat, Wilson, corny jokes, and encouraging people to step out to experience abundant life.

 

 

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5 Responses to Where Does Your Validation Come From?

  1. Validation’s from just one fell place,
    and it’s something I am needing,
    along with a whole pile of grace
    ’cause the new tumour is bleeding.
    To stand against the evil day,
    under the dreadful burning sky,
    to keep my strength, to truly say
    this is not my time to die.
    Hardness is what justifies,
    and permits me to go on;
    it’s not the place for college tries,
    and there’s a war that must be won.
    All the might and courage I can borrow
    earns me the right to see tomorrow.

  2. What a touching reminder that our identity comes from God alone! Thank you so much for writing this, Tammie! Many blessings to you as you write for King Jesus!

    MaryAnn Diorio

  3. Andrew, thanks for visiting and sharing a sonnet. I visited your blog and am impressed with you ability to write a sonnet for a comment. Keep writing.

    I’m glad you were touched by this, MaryAnn.

  4. Andrew, thanks for visiting and sharing a sonnet. I visited your blog and am impressed with you ability to write a sonnet for a comment. Keep writing.

    I’m glad you were touched by this, MaryAnn. Keep writing and trusting God.

  5. Ane Mulligan says:

    Wonderful post on this, Tammie. Your take on it is spot on. It’s not easy as a creative, to keep it all on the right track. God wired us, especially performance creatives, to have a certain amount of ego to allow us to get up in front of audiences and act. He wired us to write and put our work out there for judgment. Learning to keep all that under His authority is not an easy task. I really like the points you made. I’m going to share them with my drama troupe, most of whom are Christians. 🙂

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