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Writing Through Grief

By Darlene L. Turner

“I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills, from whence cometh my help” (Psalm 121:1 KJV).

I stare out the living room window, my vision blurring and tears forming. I shuffle into the kitchen and peer out the back window. Perhaps the view from there would be different and change my situation.

It didn’t. My brother was still gone.

And I had writing deadlines.

How can we write during times of grief? Should we?
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There are those who may answer “no” to that question, but I would have to disagree. Mind you, there are times when we have to step away from our laptops. Times when concentration is tough and we wander, like me going from room to room, looking through the windows, staring into nothingness.

After that first initial shock of grief, it’s important to start putting words to paper. Even as I type this blog, the tears are flowing freely, but I write. Why? Here are some reasons I feel it’s important.

It’s therapeutic – Writing helps us in the grieving process. Even if the first words are only journaling, it begins the process of working through the pain and stopping us from getting stuck. Pouring our hearts out on paper can do wonders for the soul.

God can use it in someone’s life – There could be an individual going through the exact same pain we are—right now. Our words can bring comfort, encouragement, and hope. That in itself is reason enough to keep writing! We just never know who will stumble across our work. God’s timing is always perfect.

Our writing is stronger – Our emotion is raw during times of grief and our best writing can come out during those periods. Pain moves us in ways we never thought possible and flows through our fingertips. However, we do need to be careful not to share too much and make our writing all about us. It’s about our readers. We must pray for guidance.

Writing through times of grief-no matter what type of pain-can be tough, but rewarding for both the writer and the reader. When God is written in every word, He will seep through the lines of the page.

Yes, there is a time to stop and mourn, but there is also a time to pick up our pens and use the words God has given us. Words He will use for His glory.

So, because of this, I will write through my grief. It’s what my brother would have wanted.

For God to be glorified.

Darlene L  TurnerDarlene L. Turner writes romantic suspense. She was a finalist in the 2015 First Impressions contest and a semi-finalist in the 2015 ACFW Genesis Contest. She currently has a continuing short story, Death Brings Life on the High Seas, running in an online publication. She blogs weekly and her current series, Coffee & Conversations with Women of the Bible, is a fan favorite. She lives with her husband in the Forest City of London, Ontario. Visit Darlene at

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6 Responses to Writing Through Grief

  1. Loretta Eidson says:

    Excellent post Darlene, and so true. No one knows how many lives will be touched when we are faithful to spill our hearts onto paper and allow God to use those words to minister to others. Thank you for sharing!

  2. Darlene, your words provide a fresh illustration of Paul’s words, “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.” (2 Cor. 1:3-4). God uses your writing to comfort you and in turn you comfort others. Bless you my friend. May you also receive comfort in knowing your grief is not wasted but is blessing many.

  3. DiAnn Mills says:

    Outstanding blog. Always our pain infuses with our creativity and makes us better writers.

  4. Writing is the way I have dealt with grief for the last 40 years for all the reasons you listed. Thank you for a heartfelt post.

  5. Thanks ladies for your kind comments. I really appreciate your encouragement.

  6. Diane Spearing says:

    Wow Dar that is incredible. You are one amazing author and a pleasure to know